Don't interrupt the speaker, listen first and then talk

Do you want to be a person where others come and talk to you? I am pretty sure everyone would love that and would be keen to know how to be.

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Being a good listener does not come easy for some of us and it’s much more than hearing. The fact is listening takes time, practice and dedication by paying attention to what the other person is saying.

From my personal life, it literally took me two years to patiently get into the habit of listening to others. I used to be a person where I never listen and try distracting my friends when they come to talk to me. At the end, I found that they stopped sharing stories with me and this made me feel bad and realize my mistakes.

So, learn to get into the habit of listening more than talking. Learn to hold back your thoughts and opinion and pay attention in order to become a good listener. (The Art of Being a Good Listener, 2015)

https://www.thoughtworks.com/insights/blog/the-art-of-being-a-good-listener

Allow the speaker to speak first and complete their sentence because you will always get time to talk after they finish. If you keep interrupting them in middle you would basically not understand what they are trying to say.

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Here are some good practice to be a good listener:

v  If you are not physically seeing a person learn to wait for two second after they end. This becomes very important when you are talking to someone on phone. (Smith, 2016)

 http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/03/03/10-ways-to-being-a-good-listener1/

v  When you are talking to your friend, a colleague, a supervisor learn to respect them. For example: If you interrupt them while they are speaking to you, ask them sorry and tell them to continue. This makes them feel you care for them and respect them by listening.

Try to follow these steps to become to a good listener. I hope this information would have given you some ideas. Please feel free if you have any comments about anything to add or say.

References

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Dubuque, M. (n.d.). What to say to people who interrupt you all the time. Retrieved from youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UDE9RDS3ecs

Smith, T. (n.d.). 10 Ways To Be A Good Listener. Retrieved from littlethingsmatter: http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/03/03/10-ways-to-being-a-good-listener1/

The Art of Being a Good Listener. (2015, june 30). Retrieved from thoughtworks: https://www.thoughtworks.com/insights/blog/the-art-of-being-a-good-listener